Denial Doesn’t Help But a Local Adoption Agency Can…
Denial can be a common behavior that many of us use when when dealing with an uncomfortable or unpleasant situation. When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, being in denial may be where you are at right now. According to Merriam-Webster.com/Dictionary, being in denial is refusing to admit the truth or reality of something unpleasant.
An unplanned pregnancy may be an uncomfortable or unpleasant reality in your current situation. Most of us have been faced with a situation or circumstance we wish we weren’t, or in a position we wish we weren’t. It can feel easier to avoid, evade, or refuse to accept the reality of the position we are in. An unplanned pregnancy is a situation where staying in denial may feel easier than accepting truth, but it doesn’t make the reality change. It’s hard, but you don’t have to face this alone. Our local adoption agency offers unwanted pregnancy options and support that you probably don’t know about, including things like like food, housing, and medical care.
When you are in denial about being pregnant, you may feel one or more of the following:
-Wishing you are not “really” pregnant does not make the pregnancy disappear or the blue + turn into a -. Accepting that you are pregnant and need to make a decision for you and your baby is important.
-Wanting a different outcome. This is absolutely normal and common among birth mothers but reality needs to take over. Wanting doesn’t always mean it will happen.
Waiting longer to make an adoption choice, which will only give you less time to:
-bond with the adoptive family before the baby’s birth.
-prepare any family or friends that you receive emotional support from.
-shorten the time that you can receive financial resources.
-lessen the support you will be able to receive over time.
Hoping that your circumstances will change without actively taking actions to change them just doesn’t work. Accepting reality can be difficult and painful – like pulling a thorn out of your eye. The thorn is painful while it is in your eye and hurts really badly when you pull it out, but then your eye can heal. When you heal, you feel better. The good news is that our local adoption agency is standing by to help, and we understand how difficult your situation is.
Stepping out of denial and taking the brave step of accepting that you are pregnant may be difficult but it will be more helpful to you. Acceptance will allow you to move forward, find peace, and the security of a positive plan. Walking around avoiding the unknown, scared to face the future isn’t really living – it’s practicing the art of avoidance.
Take the first step – accept that you are pregnant. Your life is not going to spiral out of control, you are in the driver’s seat and can stay in control. You don’t have to do this alone. Building Arizona Families is a local adoption agency – not a place of judgment. It is a place of support where we can offer we can help with expenses related to medical care, transportation, food, housing & more. You can find out more about the unwanted pregnancy options that we offer HERE.
Here are some “next steps” decisions that will help you:
-Accept the pregnancy, know that there are unwanted pregnancy options that are alternatives to abortion.
-Think about whether you want and are able to parent.
-If parenting is not an option, think about an adoption plan.
-If adoption may be an option for you, it’s time to learn more about it.
Call us to learn more about how we can help you at (623) 695-4112 with unplanned pregnancy options like food, housing, and medical care. We want to help you and your unborn baby have a healthy, happy future.